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That being said, society needs to set limits and standards. Without those, there is no society, only something resembling anarchy. Quote:
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And like I said, there is a distinct difference between a homosexual couple and a heterosexual couple, and I've made my reasoning based on that distinction. Look back and read up a bit on that. Quote:
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Also, if marriage is a declaration of love, then why are there child-support benefits within it? If that's all marriage were, a declaration of love, the support benefits would not be there in the first place. But they're there, and this leaves a big, gaping hole in the theory of "Marriage is all about love". And, why should society suddenly change because it would please a smaller group? Marriage has been around for quite some time, and now, all of a sudden, a group has decided it wants to change that, regardless of what that means overall. Again, without limits, there is no society. So where and when is the line drawn? It needs to be somewhere, and regardless of where, some people aren't going to like it. |
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Society as a whole is changing. Canada and the US are countries with many different people. Now, I will bring up the point that the church should not play a part in our government. It's unfair that the government in the US is Christian. There are so many different people from various societies that it is cruel that the government would make a certain group of people feel like they are lesser because of some Christian beliefs. Just because Christianity would not set all of the morals for the country (that a lot of people don't follow anymore) does not mean there would not be limits. |
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Ok, that was very extrem, but I hope it makes my point clear. And I still don't understand what you, DW, have against a homosexual couple adopting children... There are surprisingly many families like that, living happily together! (Well at least in germany there are, I don't know about the USA.) If you succed in convincing me without saying things like "It's just not natural.." then I'll be happy and stop posting in this thread!^^ |
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Sorry if this is in a small way off topic, but.........
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Sorry DW, I've read everything what you have written so far and I don't see ANY logic argument against homosexual marriage...
Yes you're right, marriage is not "all about love". That's the past. Today, it's indeed a construct of benefits that helps families. But that's no argument against homosexual marriage, since a homosexual couple can adopt children and (since you gave us that link) even use today's technological advances to get biological related children! So there is even no argument against homosexual marriage because of reproductional reasons. There is in fact no difference between "normal" and homosexual marriage. Oh and before I forget it, against the adopting of children by homosexual couples: Quote:
So your main points from post #7 are disproven. They CAN have children AND children adopted by them develope just as normal as others. So much to DW, who is almost the only one who is arguing against homosexual marriage logically. (More or less... ...Sorry, I couldn't hold it back ^^) Any other arguing against it is either religiously founded or just the fact that some people are afraid of things that are "different". If you said something that disproves that I must have missed it, because I don't see anything... |
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are you saying homosexuals are second class citizens? by saying that, you have effectively called most of the catholic faith racist. or maybe not. but I don't care, since I'm jewish. speaking of jews, reform judiasm has nothing against gay marriage and would marry a gay couple without complaint. so would several other faiths. gay people are certainly no different than heterosexuals, and not enough people realize that most gay people are discreet about their homosexuality and it barely influences their personality if at all. not all gays are flamboyant about it. and that's all I have to say about that.
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Gay people are simply better than normal people. I mean who started saying straights could marry? Thats blatantly wrong and an affront to marriage as a whole. There is nothing good about two straight people marrying, all it does it cause misery and dysfunctional children.
Now when you think about this statement which part of it makes it false? The part that straight people are worse than gay people or is it thew idea that someone in the world believes that? I for one just tend to believe that people are inherently scared of things they don't understand and if a guy sticking it to another guy scares you, that just means you should stop thinking about it or get over it. Seriously, like if two women decide they want to be together by legality standards (which mind you can be done outside of a Christian church and in all reality has just as much to do with the Christian Church as genocide does, I.E. sure they do it a lot but they're not the only ones who do, or matter) it really makes a difference on the world around them or effects others in any way. Same with Gay Adoption. So what? if two people are willing to take care of a kid then they have the right to as long as they don't hurt the kid. I've seen almost every friend I have raised by straight parents and they turned out generally abused, neglected and mentally scarred, so claiming that two gay people will mess up a kid holds very little, petty and selfish merit. If that kid grows up to be Gay, guess what? Makes no difference to anyone. Theres almost 7 billion people in the world, 9 or 10 Homosexuals don't make the world any worse than the seething cesspool of pus it already is. As a matter of fact it can only make it better because then you have at least 9 or 10 people in the world who will eventually realize their own insecurities instead of a world full of people who hide behind their wall of massed idiocies to eventually vomit forth great pukes of acid to make up for their own insecurities and selfishness. Have a fun day. |
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Also, if you were right, and marriage is currently about love, then there would be no child support benefits. See, there's something you fail to understand here. I don't care how many artificial means the two people can use to have children. They're artificial, and should not be used. Period. So regardless of what they can do, I believe that they shouldn't be doing it. Again, I have no problem with them getting legal recognition. It just should not have the child support benefits that traditional marriage has. Quote:
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It appears as if you can't present a point in anything but the wrong way. Act mature. Idiotic sarcasm will get you nowhere. Have a point to make? Make it without using the terrible method you used.
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There are not just a "few" non-Christians in America. The bigger picture is that the non-Christian population is growing and it will continue to grow, so therefore the government needs to change. |
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As I said before many homosexual couples have children and these children have developed perfectly well so far. There boys and girls, 3-year-olds, 16-year-olds, almost anything... Well this doesn't prove or disprove anything, BUT according to this it's much more likely that children develope in such a "special" families just as they would do in any other family. So PLEASE don't be so (excuse me) naive and stick to your "They shouldn't raise children"-attitude. Quote:
And even if there weren't it would still be no argument, since it doesn't mean that they couldn't raise children. EDIT: It appears I can't quote in a quote... |
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Being homosexual is neither a matter of choice nor a matter of education. There are many factors that may influence whether a person is homosexual or not. Some of them are some genes which are making it more likely. (Scientists are not quite sure which genes but they are quite sure that there are some.) Another may be the surrounding in which a child grows up. (Scientists are not quite sure in this point, but surprisingly (for you that is) according to researches done so far it's often not a homosexual surrounding that makes homosexuality more likely but a surrounding where the own gender is very dominant.) As you can see I often write things like "Scientists are not quite sure" so you could say my argumentation may not be well-founded BUT you can still see that anyone who thinks that homosexuals only raise more homosexuals is just narrowminded and naive. Sorry to say it like that, but that's it... And I REALLY hope that you are not one of these fools (again, sorry..) but according to what you've written so far one could think that you may be one of them, but as I said, I really hope you're not.. I'm not going to post in this thread again because I think this topic is too much for me.. My last words: I hope anyone who thinks homosexual marriage should not be allowed will come to his/her senses. |
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You apparently don't pay attention to much that I say, else that would not be the conclusion you'd have drawn.
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1) A moderator with strong feelings on a certain topic should not be allowed to moderate content in a thread on that topic. It just plain looks bad for the forum as a whole. Especially when it alienates a significant portion of the forum's population.
2) Every person is a person. That is to say, we are all the same, and should be treated as such. 3) I think it's hilarious when religious people have to fall back on the ideas of evolution to say that homosexuality is unnatural. 3a) If homosexuality were wrong, evolution would have weeded it out a long, long, long, long time ago. 4) Don't want to give homosexuals (et al) equal rights? Then take them away from everyone. 5) If you are anti-gay I seriously recommend swallowing your pride and befriending someone who is gay. They aren't as scary or sinful as you think. 6) Who else will adopt all of the kids the unwed single mothers put up for adoption? I mean, we have to make up for the fact that we demonize birth control, tell people condoms give them AIDS, destroy a woman's right to choose, and improperly subscribe abstinence to innately curious creatures (who would make better choices in their lives if only they were privileged enough to be properly educated)? 6a) And for IVF, I mean, since we can't use them for stem cells they might as well go somewhere. 7) To those opposed to gay-marriage - if they make it legal, are you suddenly going to go run off and marry someone of the same sex? Probably not, unless you were gay to begin with. It's a little thing called none of your business. 8) I'd like to see an argument against gay marriage that has nothing to do with religion. In fact, I challenge someone to seriously present such an argument, and to make it compelling. It would stand to say that if one really cared as much as they said they cared about the topic, then they would take up the challenge. 9) Atheists are concerned with many issues, not just taking religion out of the affairs of a secular public (a/k/a - maintaining the true definition of secular). I personally prefer the term secular humanist. Don't make the mistake of assuming they want to take religion away just because they have to repair the massive amounts of damage that religion has done to our world as a whole. 10) Remember that part about people being equal? If opposed to gay marriage, try to explain how homosexuals are a different species. That might be the only way to convince anyone of the argument. Of course, then one would have to go up against PETH (People for the Ethical Treatment of Homosexuals). 11) To say that gays are not equal to others is an irrational statement. The expression "Coming to your senses" really means that one needs to think rationally again. I believe this goes back to what has been said about equality, proving homosexuals aren't humans, and not using religion as an excuse? 12) Returning to IVF. Would the "it's artificial so don't do it" excuse extend to everything? Stop going to the doctor. Don't use a hearing aid. Rip out the pacemaker. Remove the metal plate. Take off your glasses. Turn off your heat in the winter and build a fire in your livingroom. Throw away your microwave. Raise livestock and crops on a farm. Don't use the internet. Don't wear clothes. Don't use tools. 12a) Kind of reminds of me of how no matter what a god says, we are still selective about what to take literally and what to take metaphorically, depending on what we chose to believe outside of said god. The same thing applies here - we don't stop using artificial means elsewhere because it would be an inconvenience to us. Overall, I suppose my theme here is "all or none." By the way, I obviously support the idea of equal rights. |
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That being said, I have researched this matter further and discovered that there does exist substantial evidence that supports DarkWarrior's claims. Although I am still strongly in favor homosexual marriage, I think more studies need to be conducted before gay couples are allowed to adopt. Its important to remember that the needs of the children come before the civil rights struggle. I would encourage everyone to research this subject in more detial before drawing rash conclusions as I have. |
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There is quite a bit here that is interesting, and I would like to address all of it. However, there is just too much volume to reply to, so I will just say one thing and let the discussion continue.
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Anyway, what I would like to hear are the reasons people say that homosexuality is right, since we keep addressing why it is or isn't wrong but never get the other side. However, I would like for whoever answers this to avoid the "love" approach unless they want to prove it from a religious standpoint, since "love" from an evolutionary standpoint would merely be considered an instinct promoting procreation and therefore against homosexuality. |
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Sorry to pick a person out and that I could not find the quote from him, but DW said that if a 'sudden change' was made to society, such as suddenly allowing gays all the rights straight people have in marriage, it would be disastrous (or bad, or something like that), so why not take it in steps? Would that be wrong too? Start with civil unions, and see where it goes from there. If that works, then move a small step further, and so on.
Eventually, gay marriage will then POSSIBLY not only have an existence, but it will in time POSSIBLY be accepted as an equal to straight marriage. If not made as a sudden change, but taken in slow steps, would it still be wrong? EDIT: ALSO, DW, you have also stated that religions should be recognized as equal, so what about religions that support and/or accept gay marriage? Religions that would allow it? Should they also be respected then? Or are you not counting them as religions, or thinking that they should be exceptions to the ideas of equality of religions? I would really like a response to these points...as I check this forum every day to see what people have to say... :) |
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The thing is that with divorce, most of the time, the parents aren't thinking of what's best for the children. I suspect the mentality is "Oh, they'll learn to cope.", but really, that's selfish motivation and isn't taking into account what those kids need. The two made a commitment when they got married, and they need to honor that. |
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My mother suffered some sort of trauma as a child. I don't know too much about it, but her own mother was very neglectful and her father was found shot by his own gun when she was 12. As a result, she became co-dependent and had a number of destructive relationships, one of which she had to escape from by hiding at a friend's house and telling her family to lie about where she was. In comparison, the relationship she had with my father was more healthy, but he was controlling, possibly unfaithful, and neglectful to the point of leaving her at home alone all day while she was in labour. He also used to hit me and my siblings. About four years ago, they separated. Now I live with my mother, and see my father (who, incidentally, has changed phenomenally over the last few years) every few weeks. I am ten times happier than I was before the split, but even if I weren't, it's really their issue and not mine. A large part of the reason why I am glad the divorce happened is that I can tell how much better this situation is for both of them, especially my mother. There is no rule saying that divorce is always a bad thing to go through. Yes, it was upsetting at the time, but now I look back on it with no bad feelings whatsoever. Divorce can free people, and make them happy. Staying in an unhappy relationship fools no-one, and can ultimately make the inevitable split worse. Also, there is absolutely no reason to honour vows that were made years ago if you or the situation have changed. People's feelings don't remain the same forever. Neither is it a case of "facing up to your mistakes". A couple can seem perfect together at one point, only to become aware of flaws in their relationship later on, or to have a new situation like a job that keeps them away from home, which would alter the dynamics between them. You can't accuse someone of being selfish when it comes to their own marriage, even if the problem is "only" being unfaithful. If one partner has cheated, and the other partner knows about it, there will be tension and most likely arguments, which will create an extremely unpleasant environment. Surely it would be better for a child to live somewhere without this sort of conflict. The number or gender of the parents present is far less important than being in a safe, reliable and loving environment, which can't happen when the parents are fighting. |
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What about the cases where the problems in the marriage are indirectly affecting the children, such as unfaithfulness? |
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Then the parents need to sit down and handle the situation head-on, and not avoid each other about it, or get confrontational about it. There are things more important than one instance of unfaithfulness to go on there, unless it's a constant. In which case, if it's damaging enough, there needs to be some way to work it out without the kids either being involved in some custody battle or shuttling every other week or something.
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